Sunday, January 31, 2010

Hill of Beans

Like with so many other natural, organic foods, I'm surprised to find out how EASY it is to make beans, and yet I've NEVER made them until two days ago. So I'm going to break it down to three easy steps so that others can start making beans for themselves too and not be subjected to possible BPA poisoning (in can lining) and high levels of sodium. Not to mention, although I totally am, that fresh, homemade beans are just better for you since the vitamins and minerals have not been depleted or altered. They haven't lost nutrition in some chemical processing or canning process and the flavor is out of this world. I literally ate black beans right out of the pot without a lick of anything for flavor added... and they tasted WONDERFUL! Your health is worth the time and a hill of beans. At the end I'll post the recipe for the awesome fajita mix you see in the pic here.

Beans (Black, Red, Brown, Pic your favorite)

My method of making beans saves me a ton of time, but it requires a crock pot.

1) Place approx 3 cups of beans in a large crock pot with about 6 cups of purified water the night before you would like to eat them. Cover and go to bed. DO NOT TURN THE CROCK POT ON.

2) When you wake up in the morning, drain beans in colander and rinse them.

3) Add the beans back to the crock pot with another 6-8 cups of purified water, turn the crock pot on low and cover. Allow to slow cook throughout the day.

Depending on the softness/firmness of bean you prefer, the beans will be done cooking anywhere from noon to 5 p.m. That is a pretty large window for your beans to be perfect. When I made mine, I ate them at lunch and kept them cooking until dinner and then added them to my fajitas and they were PERFECT!!! As good as beans are for you, and as easy as they are to make, make your own and add them to everything! My next experiment with my black beans is to mash them and add them to my mashed sweet potatoes... YUMMY!

Fajitas

2 Cups chopped broiled organic chicken breast (I use left overs, no bones, no skin)
1 medium organic onion sliced into long strips
1 medium organic green bell pepper sliced into long strips
1 medium organic red or orange bell pepper sliced into long strips
2 cloves garlic minced
1-2 cups of black beans (again, I use left overs)
1 package fajita seasoning mix
1/4 cup of water OR I use the black bean sauce that was created with the water and beans when cooked. It's a rich and creamy (all natural) sauce that makes my fajitas ROCK.

On high heat add beans, water, fajita seasoning and garlic in a large skillet or wok. Stir for 1 minute. Add veggies and stir for another minute or until the veggies are well coated, warm but still crispy. Serve in whole wheat pita bread or tortilla.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Power Schedule

This post is for everyone who shares in my quest for health and fitness. If you have a goal to lose weight or build muscle, where exactly does that goal fall on your list of priorities from day to day? Do you have other goals that come before this particular one? If you do, then you'll probably just want to pass on this blog post because in today's post I'm talking about MY discoveries on the road to attain my goal of ultimate health and fitness and THAT IS MY FIRST PRIORITY. Not to say that God and family are not important.... they are actually my HIGHEST PRIORITY! But I've realized that those relationships are lacking when my health and fitness levels are low. The healthier I am, the more energy I have and the more I have to devote to God and family. So, with that said, let me tell you about the greatest tool I've found to reach my goals... A schedule!

A schedule is really just a list of your priorities with a road map for planned execution. Steven R. Covey writes in The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People, “The key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your priorities.” What you do first doesn't necessarily hold the most important place in your heart. As a matter of fact, experts say that the thing you dread most should actually take first priority. They describe it as "eating your frog" that way the worst is over and the rest of your day can continue quite easily. But I've found that by planning the worst first (yes, it WAS my workout), the benefits I got from completing my workout first thing in the morning made me LOVE mornings. There is no coffee in the world that could compare to the energy and kick I get in the morning with my workout! But I only discovered that when I SCHEDULED my workout first... EVERY DAY. MMMM that frog is tasty! hahahahaha

The other aspect of my FIRST priority is nutrition, or eating. Yep, that gets scheduled too! I schedule 5 small meals everyday and EVERYTHING else gets scheduled around them. Now before I go into my amazing discoveries with this facet of my schedule, I'd like to point out that there ARE tricks to getting all five of my meals in with a ton of other appointments and to-do items suffocating my food time. The greatest weapon in my arsenal is the meal replacement shake. I personally use EAS Myoplex shakes (and I usually have 2 a day)... because they taste good. If I find one that tastes as good and provides better nutrition, I will switch in a heartbeat. I have no product loyalty when it comes to my first priority. And at 160 calories for one meal and a price of about of about $3-$4 a day for TWO meals... well that's kind of a no-brainer. Plus I can drink those shakes while doing just about anything without disrupting others trying to work through their own schedules. It just works for me.

I've found that by having a schedule every day that I get far more done with far less stress, but what I've found by scheduling my exercise and eating is freedom! I literally spend about 20 minutes every Sunday starting my week's schedule. Every day of the schedule starts with when and how I'm going to work out each day of that week and what and when I'm going to eat each day of that week. Not only does that 20 minute investment save me HOURS of time throughout the week, but it also saves me money. That little bit of scheduling also forms my grocery list for the week so when I get to the grocery store I know what I'm buying and exactly how much for the week. I've NOTICEABLY dropped my food bill AT LEAST $50 a week by simply not buying food I don't need. I also have far less food that goes to waste. This scheduling rocks huh?
Finally, and this goes back to that freedom I just mentioned, my schedule has changed my paradigm about food. I am a food lover and OFTEN mistake eating as an event. It was never uncommon for my answer to be, "I know a good restaurant" when friends would ask what I wanted to do when we got together. But when I scheduled my eating, food became a scheduled action item... like gassing up my car. No longer was I going out to eat with my friends for entertainment, now I was eating (or drinking) my meal prior to heading to the mall or walking in the park. Eating suddenly became separate from every other activity in my life. I've found a new respect for food as fuel now that it has its own time slot and I'm free. Gone are the blood sugar dips and the low energy afternoon, instead I am clear headed, full of energy and productive. That is definitely what I call a power schedule! Now I just need to figure out how to eat AWAY from the dang TV...hahahahaha!

Sunday, January 24, 2010

JACKPOT!!!!

Yep readers... I hit the jackpot! I was at Whole Foods today and headed over to the dairy aisle to find me a little treasure in the form of Greek yogurt. The beauty of Greek yogurt is that for about the same calories as regular yogurt, you get a ton of protein. And in the case of the Chobani yogurt I got, it also had NO fat AND is made with hormone free milk containing all the wonderful live yogurt cultures and probiotics that yogurt "back in the day" always contained. I am IN LOVE with this yogurt. It is SUPER CREAMY with HUGE fruit pieces and reminds me of soft serve ice cream with fruit topping more than yogurt. And the fact that Chobani is made with all natural sweeteners is enough to make me dance a jig.... no seriously... I DANCED A JIG!

So here are the numbers: Calories - 140, Fat - 0, Protein -14g, Carb - 20g

Here's a link to try Chobani for free: Chobani Coupon

What a perfect end-of-the-day snack that is yummy, satisfying AND good for you! You're dancing a jig now too aren't you??? :)

Friday, January 22, 2010

Slow But Sure Doesn't Always Win The Race!

For those who make small changes and take baby steps to achieve their goals but just can't seem to stick to it, I suggest that you strap on a parachute and jump! Sometimes (for some people) jumping into a new lifestyle is the greatest thing that you can do for yourself. At least it was for me. The small changes would only give me small results making it easy for me to quit or give up because I just wasn't making progress (I should clarify, s-l-o-w progress). But when I made one huge complete change I saw HUGE results and those results have been motivating me ever since. The other bonus to "jumping" was that I only had to "suffer" once. There was no, "a little suffer here....... a little suffer there" until one day I was transformed. For some people that works. For me, not so much. The ultimate decision to live my life differently was only tough for the first few weeks of LEARNING a new way to live, and it was while I was motivated to change and willing to "suffer" a little to get what I want. The one big adjustment seemed to be far less tougher than I thought it would be. Which makes perfect sense now as I look back at all the S-L-O-W agony I always felt from always feeling like I was taking something away while getting very little in return. Each and every week changing or depriving me of SOMETHING!!! But when I made one big change, it was like removing a bandage... quick, painful but over before I knew it. Amazingly enough, that was about the time that support started coming in BEFORE I could ask for it. It was like the universe decided to move the moment I decided that EVERYTHING was going to change. That new level of commitment made mountains start to move. So while slow but sure can and does work for many, if it doesn't work for you and you find yourself ALWAYS going back to your old habits, the BIG change might be just what you need. And the BIG results might just be the motivation to make your changes stick.

Good luck to all on our journeys to get our heart's desires....

****I dedicate this to my friend Heather who motivates me to no end and who graciously invited me into her world solidifying and supporting the big changes that I have made. For more wonderful inspiration, please check out SmashFit.com.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Consequences

DISCLAIMER: This blog post is not meant to offend anyone. These are my notes from a personal Bible study that I thought might help others out there as it has helped me. If you are dealing with someone who has made bad decisions in life, hurt or used people and is turning to God as a last resort, PLEASE let them know that they could not have come to a more perfect place (I know from PERSONAL experience)!!! But they should understand that while God has forgiven them and will provide guidance and strength, salvation does not remove consequences. This is a wonderful message to convey so that they can honestly test their own motivation for salvation. Are they looking for God to fix their situation, or are they looking for God to fix THEM?

Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the spirit reap eternal life.

God helps those who help themselves.

2 Thessalonians 3:10 - For even when we were with you, we would give you this command: If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat.

Proverbs 20:4 - The sluggard does not plow in the autumn; he will seek at harvest and have nothing.

Proverbs 21:25 - The desire of the sluggard KILLS him, for his hands refuse to labor.

PLEASE do not use Christianity for monetary gain or to take advantage of others.

Proverbs 20:11 - Even a child makes himself known by his acts, by whether his conduct is pure and upright.

Matthew 12:33 - Either make the tree good and its fruit good or make the tree bad it its fruit bad for the tree IS KNOWN by its fruit.

Galatians 5:22-23 - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

GREAT NEWS: If you genuinely want God in your life, while he won't take away your consequences, He WILL use those consequences to make your life amazing with a freedom BEYOND consequences, but you have to trust Him. That will all lead to some pretty incredible and wonderful consequences of their own.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

The Proof Is In The Pudding

The whole Jillian Michaels craze, I'm gettin it. Jillian appeared on the Joy Behar show last night and I was charmed by Ms. Michaels to no end! While I'm not a big fan of Joy Behar, I happened to catch her show while flipping through the channels at the precise moment Joy said that she is interested in diet and exercise for her introduction to "Joy's Anatomy". That too is where my interests lie so the Joy Behar show is where I stayed. Ms. Michaels rocked. She did not over speak, she was articulate, humble and charming, tackling each of Joy's questions with an easy candor that has won me over. To be honest, I've always kind of been drawn to the drill sergeant in her.... I don't know why??? But last night I saw another facet of Jillian Michaels that I adore. Her honesty about her own workouts and the RESPECT she has for the hard work that the Biggest Loser contestants put in blew me away. And what kind of relationships is she cultivating??? Season 4 Biggest Loser contestant Bill Germanakos was quick to defend Ms. Michaels after she offhandedly dismissed her own workouts over that of the contestants. That says A LOT, about Ms. Michaels as a person, that such great loyalty is instilled with the people she trains. It reminds me of Proverbs 13:24 -"Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him." Through Jillian's "tough love" with these contestants, she nurtures a very strong bond showing each and every one of them that she cares. I personally love it! But I want to get to Ms. Michaels' response to Joy's question about 2 pound-a-week weight loss being the guideline for healthy weight loss. Ms. Michaels' response was, "Who says that?.... The proof is in the pudding" referring to the Biggest Loser contestants losing 10, 12 or 15 pounds a week, being healthy and becoming athletes in some cases. Is that the pudding?

Yes, the contestants are medically supervised. Yes, they may be gaining immediate health, but the world is concerned with their ultimate health. How many contestants from first and second season have kept it off today? Because if the majority have put it back on then the pudding would actually not be proof at all. In most cases with this epidemic of obesity in America, the battle isn't taking it off, it's keeping it off. I'm reminded that I haven't actually SEEN this pudding. The Biggest Loser only shows people GETTING to their goal weight (in some cases getting BELOW a healthy weight) to win money. I want to know how many stay at a healthy weight for the long term.... THAT is where the pudding is at.

Side note: I just want to add that there IS proof that there are people who kept it off. Those are the people who are featured on air quite a bit. So there IS proof that the Biggest Loser has changed lives (even one life is a success). But for the rest of the contestants who haven't... how many are there and what exactly IS their health condition today? Did losing a HUGE amount of weight only to put it back on compromise anyone's health? Did anyone develop any life threatening conditions from hanging skin (as a result of quick weight loss)? Do the few Biggest Loser success stories represent the majority or minority of contestants? Show me the pudding (low cal fat free please)!!!!
PS. The pic posted is of the book that Jillian plugged on Joy's show. Once again, I TOTALLY love that she said health and fitness IS IN your diet!!! That is a VERY eastern way of thinking that I'm ABSOLUTELY on board with! "Let food be thy medicine and let thy medicine be thy food." ~ Aristotle. I'm sooooo getting this book! :)

God Can Be Found In The Most Peculiar Places

A couple of days ago Jon Stewart of The Daily Show aired his beliefs and opinions surrounding Rush Limbaugh and Pat Robertson's comments regarding the tragedy that took place in Haiti. Of all the places for God to show himself... THE DAILY SHOW!?! But sure enough, Jon Stewart recited scriptures from the Holy Bible on this national cable show! Not only were these scriptures applicable, but he was spot-on-right in my own humble opinion. While his delivery WAS a bit vulgar, he did touch the heart of God's mercy and compassion. I would be lying if I said that I wasn't shocked and a bit taken aback by such a real message from God put into terms that may or may not have spoken to Limbaugh or Robertson, but certainly spoke to a secular crowd to root for the home team... YAY GOD! It WAS God's word recited by Mr. Jon Stewart. We are to rebuke satan, devils and demons... NOT each other. The Light that these Haitian people need to see is sorely missing from Mr. Robertson (also on national television), only to be found in Jon Stewart??? God, you are found in the most peculiar places!

Psalm 34:18 - The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

Isaiah 41:10 - fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Psalm 71:20 - You who have made me see many troubles and calamities will revive me again; from the depths of the earth you will bring me up again.

Isaiah 54: 10 - "...For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed," says the Lord, who has compassion on you.

Mr. Stewart goes on to summarize that the referenced scriptures almost sound as if they were written about @#%*&! earthquakes. Spot-on Jon Stewart, spot-on. Check out the awesome video HERE!

Saturday, January 16, 2010

Emotions Lie

Why do our emotions have to lie to us? I've known for quite some time that our emotions are a gauge of sorts on our control panels of life. If we're feeling bad, then we aren't living the way we need or want to. If we are feeling good then we are on the right track. But sometimes our gauges read like my gas gauge when I first get into my car.... false.

If I didn't know that I had to turn on or start my car for the gas gauge to read correctly, I might have a panic attack when I first get in. The false reading of empty would scare anyone who didn't know any better. But I know that once I've done what I'm supposed to do (start the car), the indicator on the gauge will move; it will give me a completely different and much more accurate picture of my situation. Behold, I actually have a full tank! The same seems to hold true for our emotions. That feeling of joy at the prospect of eating that huge piece of chocolate cake is ALWAYS replaced with a feeling of guilt and misery directly after consumption. And it's those horrible feelings that stay with you. The feeling of joy is GONE as soon as the cake is gone. Or what about exercise? The feeling of dread that you feel before doing your 30 minutes of cardio is ALWAYS quickly replaced with feelings of elation, accomplishment and pride. Those feelings also stay with you long after the exercise is complete. Why the heck do our emotions have to lie to us in the first place? What exactly does that serve?

That is an honest question that I don't have the answer for (right now), but I DO KNOW that there are people in this world who have consciously or unconsciously figured out the old gauge trick and don't even bother looking at their gas gauges until AFTER they've started their car; the people who pass on the cake and get right to the feeling good and who get right to the gym to feel that elation, accomplishment and pride. Clearly these people learned that our emotions lie until, they too, are trained to be fit. Time for me to get back to conditioning my gauge... wow that sounded bad!

Friday, January 8, 2010

Walk a Mile In My Shoes

You would be AMAZED at the small things that become unknowing road blocks on the road to your fitness goals... at least I was! Years ago I broke my ankle. I didn't just break it, I managed to shatter it to shards. It was in so many tiny pieces that the orthopedic surgeon said there weren't pieces big enough to even attempt to screw me back together. I STILL have visions of me, an egg and a wall. Well, that MAJOR road block was overcome with physical therapy and sheer will to overcome. But as of late I have been experiencing pain, other symptoms I didn't even realize existed and a pretty big decrease in motivation to workout that began quite some time ago. It's always the little things!

I bought a new pair of shoes yesterday. The birds now sing, the sky is blue and the world is right again with this one simple change. My new shoes made me feel like a million bucks INSTANTLY! As a matter of fact, THE TRIP to the shoe store.... The New Balance shoe store to be exact, changed everything. The wonderful salesman at the store was an EXPERT. Apparently he watched me walk into the store and made an assessment in that brief 30 second span of time. My first sentence was that I am working out quite a bit and need a new pair of shoes. He then proceeded to tell me that I walk with a slight roll outward on the right side. I told him that I had broken my ankle years back and did, in fact, have a slight roll when I walked due to restricted movement. Man, he was GOOD! He then took me over to the women's shoe rack and pointed to 3 pairs of sneakers and said that those were the only three he would recommend due to the stabilizers built into the shoe. The stabilizers would help to correct some of that rolling as well as help me strengthen the ankle simply because of them. Well, I was sold! He measured my feet and got me the new pair of shoes... he even put them on me! So not only was this guy an expert, but he was BRAVE as well! hahahahaha!

I HAD RELIEF INSTANTLY!!! My ankle stopped hurting, my walk was better and there was a relief of pressure that I didn't even know I had in BOTH of my feet. Not only was I overdue for a new pair of shoes, but apparently I was overdue for the RIGHT shoes. To my astonishment, I was in and out of The New Balance store in about 15 minutes and this morning I worked out with a vigor that I haven't had in months. Who knew that my lack of motivation had anything to do with shoes???? Who knew that a shoe expert was going to make the difference????

If you don't think that a great pair of shoes can change your life, go have a talk with Cinderella! <--- I love that quote.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Yo Quiero Taco Bell??? Not Yet!

While I do not think it's ok for Taco Bell to run a "Taco Bell Diet" or "Drive Thru Diet" campaign, I can say that after reading Christine's journey, Taco Bell is moving in the right direction! For a fast food chain to FINALLY get that we need truly healthy options is wonderful. But my concern about promoting those healthier options this way is that we are feeding (pardon the pun) the nation's obesity epidemic with yet ANOTHER fad. When in reality, this change that Taco Bell is making could actually usher in a new America (similar to what Subway did! Now THAT'S fast food I can stand behind).... But it doesn't look like it's going that way at all.

Taco Bell's Fresco menu is a brilliant FIRST STEP! Replacing sauces and cheese with pico de gallo is a huge step in the right direction. But it's NOT Subway!!! Subway offers REAL healthy options with whole wheat bread and TONS OF VEGGIES. We REALLY need to be asking: what's IN that Fresco item beyond the pico de gallo? How is the meat REALLY prepared? And why can't they offer low carb whole wheat tortilla as an option as well? Yes America... Taco Bell is heading in the right direction.... but we're not there yet. And Taco Bell might want to rethink how they are selling this because fads come and fads GO whereas "Taco Bell's Making Healthy Changes" could move them to corner their market and change the way America eats forever! Subway did it beautifully! I would definitely encourage Taco Bell to rethink their marketing.

If Taco Bell REALLY made that Fresco menu healthy (REAL grilled chicken with no additives and low carb whole wheat tortillas), I can honestly say that I would be in line weekly... as I am with Subway. Now, if I could just get Subway to go organic....

Here's another great perspective! Smallie Size Menu

Monday, January 4, 2010

The Inventor Of the TV Dinner Should Be Slapped!

Close observation of my eating shows that I can scarf my tuna casserole at an alarming rate. I sit in front of the TV to eat my dinner and 5 minutes later I am pushing the plate away with little to no memory of ever have eaten. That is interesting to me because, you see, I LOVE FOOD! I also LOVE being thin. These facts SHOULD come to life by the knowledge that if I took smaller bites and chewed thoroughly, not only would I get to enjoy my food that much longer, but I would also be burning more calories (yes, the activity of chewing burns calories!!!!)! And on top of THAT amazing knowledge, my body would also be able to process the food I eat much better therefore more of the food I consume would be utilized to help build my lean mean body. So what the heck is up???? Why DON'T I slow down my eating knowing all these amazing benefits? What's causing this little glitch? Those are the very questions I asked myself at the start of this year. I knew the answer before I ever wrote the question down on my trusty goal sheet; TV. For me, the television causes mindless eating. When I sit in front of the TV, I can get so absorbed that huge blocks of my time go missing. I end up having little memory of anything beyond the shows that I just watched. Don't get me wrong. I don't watch a lot of TV, but I ALWAYS watch TV when I eat dinner. Come to think of it, snacks are often consumed in front of the television as well. I have developed the terrible habit of associating food with TV and have instilled mindless eating into my day-to-day! How did this happen????

I think (by now) you all might see where this is going. #1 priority for 2010: NO EATING IN FRONT OF THE TV!!! That's all I'm going to say in today's post other than to say, "Mindless eating bad!"
*** Here's another great article with even more tips! Master 7 Keys To Lose Weight

Friday, January 1, 2010

Is Your Partner Partnering?

Everyone knows that it's good to workout with a partner. The experts say that partners keep you accountable, which of course is a good thing. But what if your partnership is holding you back? What if your partner is sick or can't make a workout or gives you excuse after excuse why they can't workout, what do you do? What if they tell you, "I just can't make it today, but we'll do our workout tomorrow"? Are you letting your partner down by going without them? What if you feel like you are? Would it be right to end the partnership and find a new one?

Well, I can't be the one to tell anyone that they need to dump their partner (mainly because my workout partner is my husband and I certainly can't dump him!), but I can share what I did to keep myself on track and give my partner the boost they needed for both of us to stay on track for this new year.

The end of 2009 was rough! I got sick, then my workout partner got sick. My workout partner did not go to the gym and continue working out when I was not there, so when my partner got sick and saw me getting ready to go to the gym, he told me that he felt bad that I was going without him. He pointed out that he didn't go without me when it was me who was sick. He went on to tell me that he would feel better the next day and we'd do our workout tomorrow. Well, guess what; he didn't feel better the next day and quite frankly, when you have a weight training schedule, THAT DAY'S workout is THAT DAY'S workout. You miss a day, and you miss THAT DAY. Moving the workout to the following day throws the rest of the weeks schedule out of whack. This is something that my partner and I had honestly never discussed before. When we started working out together last year, we just started working out. There were no plans and we never had any discussions about "workout etiquette"... we never established ground rules for our "workout partnership". So, time passed and we learned A LOT more about exercise (specifically weight training) and workouts started getting planned and still, no ground rules were established. Enter: New Year 2010!

I took this opportunity to lay down our workout ground rules. Being that I always start the new year with a goal sheet, I used my goal sheet to open the discussion. I explained that I had set my goals for 2010 and I added a few things that would effect OUR workouts and I was hoping that he was game to help me reach my goals. Well, that perked my partner's ears and opened his mind. I was able to explain the "ground rules" for 2010 without any discomfort or defensiveness. Here they are:

1) Workout schedule is set for the week. M-W-F cardio and weight training, T-TH-SAT cardio with Sunday being our day off (this is the same schedule that we used in 2009... very successfully I might add).

2) If someone has to miss a workout, the other person MUST GO without their partner. This is to help each other continue to support one another by NOT BREAKING the team's momentum.

3) If both partners have to miss THAT DAY'S workout, it is simply skipped and the workout schedule continues as if nothing was missed.

Now, a couple of things have already occurred due to the new rules. First, a new motivation to not be the person to miss the workout has kind of fallen into place. People, and I mean everyone, has this weird thing about them that they don't want to be left behind. No matter how much your partner (or spouse) cares for you, they still instinctively don't want you to do or be better without them. It's not that they don't want great things FOR you, they do, they just really want great things WITH you. Of course there are those people that honestly don't want great things for you at all and will purposely try to sabotage and hold you back and in that instance I would say cut and run, but I'm writing this from the point of view that I have an awesome partner who ALWAYS wants great things for me. He just didn't want me to workout without him and the more workouts we missed together, the harder it was to get back to the gym.... our momentum was broken (all throughout the holiday season). That leads to the final thing that the ground rules fixed.... we've regained momentum that I intend to keep.

I will keep everyone posted periodically throughout the year about how these new ground rules have effected our workouts and specifically how it has effected our success. I can already feel in my bones that this is the missing piece of the puzzle and this year is going to be the BEST year yet! This is the year we get everything our hearts desire!!!!