Well, we are into the second week of the new year (2009). Have you already broken the New Year's resolution you set at 11:59 p.m. New Year's Eve? Not to worry! Throw that New Year's resolution out. It has been said that setting that dreaded New Year's resolution is setting you up for failure simply because we are programmed that new year's resolutions WILL be broken. How many times have you heard a friend or co-worker talk about their broken New Year's resolution? There are even special segments on our local news programs that discuss this very topic, "How To Keep Your New Year's Resolution". The message is already out there... "you can't keep your new year's resolution; and you need help!" You don't! Just change your mind!
The definition of resolution is:
a. the act or process of resolving something or breaking it up into its
constituent parts or elements
b. the result of this
a. a resolving, or determining; deciding
b. the thing determined upon; decision as to future action; resolve
Do NOT change your mind on January 1st. Resolve that you will change your life January second. That way when you hear EVERYONE talk about the new year's resolution that they are struggling to keep or one that they have broken, you will not immediately associate their struggle or failure to any resolution you have made or will make. When asked what your New Year's resolution was and how you are doing with it, you can proudly say that you do not believe in New Year's resolutions. Rather, you believe in being the best "YOU" you can be and that RESOLVE is a daily process of changing your mind. The definition above states that a resolution is the "act or process of resolving something". Key word here is "process". Let the changes you would like to make in your life a process, one that you have the rest of your life to succeed. That's not to say don't set goals, because that is certainly part of the process. Goals are the constituent parts or elements that you have broken whatever you are trying to achieve into that leads you to success. The freedom of the process is that when you break your resolve... that is not failure; it's just part of the process that leads you to change your mind again then very next day.
So, I think we all should have the same New Year's Resolution on January 1st. Resolve to being the best we can be in the process of living our lives open to changing our mind every morning when we wake up. Upon waking, decide who we are going to be THAT day (i.e. today I'm going to be a non-smoker, or today I'm going to be fit... happily eatting foods that nourish my body), and resolve to be that person. If we fall short, no problem, because the next morning will roll around with another opportunity for resolution.
Happy New Year Everyone!